Communities are powerful points of reference and it can be challenging to detach ourselves from those ties. In the context of intimate partner violence, couples therapy can be a dangerous place where dynamics of power and control are more present than ever.

When abusers can access therapy jargon to justify their behaviour, the effect on victims is devastating. On top of that, therapists can push victims to reveal truths they would not otherwise have shared, out of fear of further abuse.  They may also involuntarily reinforce the abuser’s statements by attempting to give equal weight to both parties (“you should be making an effort,” “you have your share of responsibility,” etc.).

After the session, the victim can find herself alone with her abuser. This comes with a high risk of revictimization and endangers her safety.